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Photos of teen’s stripper party pique police interest

2012-11-14T17:49:00Z 2012-11-20T16:27:00Z Photos of teen’s stripper party pique police interestDON LEHMAN - dlehman@poststar.com Glens Falls Post-Star
November 14, 2012 5:49 pm  • 

SOUTH GLENS FALLS -- Police have reopened the investigation of a 16-year-old’s birthday party that featured strippers, after photos surfaced this week that seemed to show more than a teen receiving a “bikini gram.”

South Glens Falls Police last week investigated the Nov. 3 party at Spare Time Bowling Center on Route 9, after receiving a tip that strippers had contact with underage youths.

Officers were initially told the scantily clad women were a “bikini gram” sent to sing happy birthday to the teen, and concluded no charges were warranted.

But after The Post-Star published an article Tuesday about the matter, police and the newspaper received copies of photos that the teen’s friends and relatives had posted on social networking websites after the party. The photos seemed to contradict the “bikini gram” version of events. Police had not been shown the photos as part of the initial inquiry.

South Glens Falls Police Chief Kevin Judd said his office consulted with the Saratoga County District Attorney’s Office after viewing the photos, and the decision was made to re-open the inquiry. State Police are assisting, he said.

“It’s being looked into because of the pictures that surfaced,” Judd said. “The State Police are assisting us. We have a lot of people to talk to.”

It is illegal for teens under the age of 17 to be subjected to sexual contact, and witnessing sexual contact and sexual situations could be considered endangering their welfare. Misdemeanor charges could be filed.

Saratoga County District Attorney James Murphy said he could not speculate on possible charges Wednesday but called the allegations that minors had contact with strippers during a party organized by a parent “very concerning.”

“I think this investigation is a long way from being complete. There were a lot of people at this event who the police have to talk to,” Murphy said.

Authorities will likely look to view text message and social networking website posts regarding the party, he said.

“Even if they are deleted, all of those can be retrieved with a grand jury subpoena,” he said.

Murphy said the Saratoga County Department of Social Services was also involved in the investigation. A call to the agency was not returned Wednesday.

The Post-Star has received two photos, one of which shows a woman in g-string underwear and a bra writhing on the teen for whom the party was held, her legs wrapped around his head.

Another photo shows two scantily clad women giving “lap dances” to young people, one of them a young woman, with dollar bills littering the floor and paper covering a glass door entrance to the room.

Both photos are too risque for publication.

The person who forwarded them said they had been posted on a social networking website by the mother of the teen for whom the party was held.

The birthday boy’s mother, who was said to have organized the party, said in messages through Facebook on Monday that no strippers were at the gathering.

“This is all someone who has a personal vengeance against us and is trying to hurt us and our children. We have four sons who are active in sports, school, student council, and helping the community,” she wrote.

When e-mailed a copy of the photo showing her son with an exotic dancer’s legs wrapped around his head, she did not respond Tuesday or Wednesday.

The Post-Star is withholding the family’s name because no charges have been filed. Their lawyer, Bill White, did not return a phone call for comment.

The dancers were provided by Saratoga County adult entertainment company Tops in Bottoms, officials said. A call to the company was not returned Wednesday.

Murphy said the bowling center, which has a liquor license, could face sanctions for allowing the activity. A man who fielded a phone call at the business Wednesday would not discuss the matter.

Anyone with information in the case was asked to call South Glens Falls Police at 792-6336.

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(45) Comments

  1. keepitreal13
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    keepitreal13 - February 23, 2013 9:51 am
    To the children here that condone this behaviour, how would you feel if it was your kid sister at a friends party and they had male strippers there, rubbing their buttocks and male parts on them, how would you feel them?
  2. AnotherMother
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    AnotherMother - November 26, 2012 1:08 pm
    Were you there? Just asking.... The bowling ally are the ones who put that paper up for the surprise party... not the mother...
  3. AnotherMother
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    AnotherMother - November 26, 2012 1:05 pm
    Okay, were you there? AND did you see the photos that were posted? Just saying... a lot of people commenting and speaking of what they hear, not what the truth is. Any charges? Hmmm obviously not that bad if there are no charges as of right now... that was almost a month ago that this all happened.
  4. Key
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    Key - November 20, 2012 4:23 pm
    No, the parents are not victims. That is a total mischaracterization of the allegations against the parents. Why would you support their irresponsible actions? This is not funny.
  5. VileWeed
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    VileWeed - November 19, 2012 11:28 am
    No it doesn't. That's simply your opinion.
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    - November 17, 2012 9:46 pm
    Every society struggles w/ morality... many trying to keep "the genie in the bottle," if you will.
    Some here are willing to treat the parents here kinda' - NOT quite - fortunately - like Salem witches in the 17th C. Why'm I thinkin' this is great news... ... for the Bikini gram business?
  7. independentguy
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    independentguy - November 17, 2012 3:25 pm
    i have stated numerous times in these comments that the wired world is going to come back to haunt you. it is worst than print media. the world sees everything. there is no longer privacy. did this parent actually believe that this would not come out? dumb on her part. while i can not condone this behavior as an adult, a 16 year old sees nothing wrong with this and is probably a hero to his friends for pulling it off!
  8. msmac
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    msmac - November 17, 2012 10:54 am
    It is one thing when kids are kids..... I'm sure her son has seen naked photos and he has probably even had sex. But it is another story for a MOTHER to subject her son and other children to sexual explicit lap dances. She obviously lacks moral character and judgement. She is teaching her son to objectify woman. Way to go Mom... Take a parenting class.
  9. The Last Word
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    The Last Word - November 17, 2012 1:18 am
    One more thing! Every person under 17 now can't wait to have a party now. To the person who sent the letter to the Post Star....... STOP HIDING AND COME OUT! If you feel so strong about this stand up and show your face to everyone.
  10. The Last Word
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    The Last Word - November 17, 2012 1:14 am
    The Person you call a "GOOD MOTHER" also received a lap dance along with her sister! The BOWLING lanes never thought it was strange when paper was put over the door.. The girls you see in the picture never were naked, so no crime. They never touched a kid in the "no touch zone" These kids see much worse on facebook. Put your helmets on if you think boys between 14 an 18 are not aware of what was hidden behind a bathing suit. I think the mother yes was crazy not to ask the other parents first! One last thing, you guys were all of age when you started looking at naked boys or girls and were all of age when you started having sex. Please think about what you were doing at the boys age, this mother isn't pretending her son is still a little boy.
  11. NLS1972
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    NLS1972 - November 16, 2012 11:01 pm
    Insight? No, these people have no clue nor will they ever have a clue. They are the type who do not accept responsibliity for their actions or the actions of their children. Tagging people on FB?? REALLY??? They deserve all that's coming to them. Let's hope their boys learn from this.
  12. msmac
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    msmac - November 16, 2012 9:27 pm
    Anothermother... Really? If she only ordered a bikini gram than she should have kicked the STRIPPERS out instead of posting pics of a stripper with her legs wrapped around her sons head. She was obviously happy with the party since SHE posted the pics. And what mother orders a bikini gram to begin with???? Just disgusting! She should be appalled and embarrassed by her lack of judgement and behavior. Wake up people!! Be PARENTS!!!
  13. openureyes
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    openureyes - November 16, 2012 7:53 pm
    I not only find this distasteful but simply disgusting. I'm a mother of 2 boys and would be losing my mind if I found out my children witnessed that!!! Bikini gram my ass!!! Don't try and say that mother didn't know what she "ordered" for her son. I'm pretty sure the "stripper" gets paid a little more for a dance versus the bikini gram. What is this 16 year old boys perception of women if mom is ordering this? Then posts the pictures on facebook!!! I won't even post pictures of me and my friends in a bar smiling together for fear of breech of my privacy!
  14. Key
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    Key - November 16, 2012 7:25 pm
    That is a reprehensible comment. It indicates a lack of moral values.
  15. Key
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    Key - November 16, 2012 7:24 pm
    No, this is not harmless. The parents are teaching their children to disrespect themselves and women; it is not ok to objectify women by learing at them. Their is nothing funny about women being used for cheap thrills for any male. If those adults involved are embarrassed they should be because what they did what sick.
  16. AnotherMother
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    AnotherMother - November 16, 2012 3:02 pm
    Wow, everyone needs to step back and realize this was meant to be harmless. A mother sending her son a "bikini gram" was a funny and fun thing for her to do for her 16 year old son. The real people at fault here are Spare Time Bowling for allowing this to happen at all AND Tops and Bottoms for taking it above and beyond what was asked for. I personally know this mother and know that she is an amazing mother and not like what all of you are making her out to be. PLEASE stop saying bad things about her. She thought she was being a good Mom by ordering a fun "bikini gram", not a stripper or a lap dance. IF YOU DON'T KNOW, DON'T TALK!!!
  17. DWC121
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    DWC121 - November 16, 2012 12:59 pm
    It is too bad money is more important than engaging in putting children into an adult situation. It is too bad that a business the strippers worked for would rather make a few more bucks than making sure their business and employees are not crossing the line towards something questionable. If you call these "despirate times", I wonder what you would call it if our unemployment rate was three times as high as it is now... like parts of Europe where it is pushing 25 percent.
  18. ouch77
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    ouch77 - November 16, 2012 9:09 am
    The worst part is that the mother posted pics to facebook and "tagged" his friends in it. The kids that the party was for is walking around school bragging that he is now famous! The mother is clearly wanting to be the "cool parent" and attempt to elevate her son's social status. Instead of teaching him to be a decent human being she defends her actions and his time and time again. If you only knew this mother, she is likely sitting home reading all these comments and STILL does not have any insight. This family is notorious for defending bad behavior.
  19. Midwesterner
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    Midwesterner - November 16, 2012 3:17 am
    I’m now embarrassed to say that I’m from South Glens Falls – this story is on CNN News, ABC News, CBS News, NBC News, MSNBC, and in a whole slew of major newspapers – the Arizona Republic, Atlanta Journal-Constitution, Austin Statesman, Baltimore Sun, Boston Herald, Charlotte Observer, Columbia’s The State, Denver Post, Fort Worth Star-Telegram, Helena Independent Record, Houston Chronicle, Idaho Statesman, Indianapolis Star, Lexington Herald-Leader, Miami Herald, Montreal Gazette, New York Post, Kansas City Star, the Oklahoman, the Oregonian, Orlando Sentinel, Raleigh News & Observer, Sacramento Bee, St. Louis Dispatch, St. Paul Star-Tribune, San Antonio Express-News, San Diego Times-Union, San Diego Union-Tribune, San Francisco Chronicle, Seattle Times, Spokane Spokesman-Review, Springfield Republican, Syracuse Post-Standard, Tacoma News Tribune, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Wichita Eagle, and others! How embarrassing to have these residents of our fine village be so stupid and uncaring, and now the whole country know about it!
  20. Midwesterner
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    Midwesterner - November 16, 2012 3:16 am
    I grew up in South Glens Falls, but have lived for 35 years in two different big Midwestern cities, one with a metro area population of 1.7 million, & the other with a metro area population of 600,000. When I clicked on a CNN News link about this incident in an upstate NY village, imagine my shock and disgust when finding that it was SGF! All of the adults involved in this sordid incident were unconscionably irresponsible – what kind of message was sent to these 14- to 16-year-olds (legally CHILDREN) about the dignity of women, and about sexual morals? What kind of lasting influence will it have on these CHILDREN? I ask all of the adults involved in this–did you THINK before doing this? God made you the PARENTS so that you would TEACH your children right from wrong–it appears that you’re still as immature as adolescents, yourselves!
  21. St-Egreve
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    St-Egreve - November 16, 2012 12:35 am
    Not defending the management of Spare Time but isn't it possible that they didn't even know that strippers would be showing up ? Maybe Mom "forgot" to mention it...
  22. St-Egreve
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    St-Egreve - November 16, 2012 12:32 am
    Why didn't the stippers refuse to do the party once they realized they were teens ? Heck, that's an easy one.

    In case you haven't noticed, the clueless clown we recently re-elected to the presidency has been hopelessly unable to do anything at all about an economy literally in the toilet. In times like these certain individuals are willing to grab an extra couple of bucks in situations that might otherwise go against their sense of right and wrong. Drug dealers are another case in this same point. Desperate tmes call for desperate measures, etc...

    And just think ! We got four more years of "same old same old" to look forward to !

    Hey don't blame me, I didn't vote for him.
  23. St-Egreve
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    St-Egreve - November 16, 2012 12:18 am
    Good one ! LOL
  24. St-Egreve
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    St-Egreve - November 16, 2012 12:16 am
    Some "adults" in our society do not progress socially, intellectually or sexualy beyond a certain point. It's possible that "Mommy' subconsciously views herself today as a "16-year-old hottie" and when people like her are allowed to have kids this is what can happen.

    Frankly I think this is hysterical.
  25. Key
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    Key - November 15, 2012 9:55 pm
    Why do we care?
  26. kate
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    kate - November 15, 2012 5:05 pm
    Once again we see a supposed adult wanting to be their child's friend/buddy, not their parent.

    There is more than enough blame to go around (the bowling alley and Tops in Bottoms, for participating), but the ultimate blame should be directed at the "parent" who organized this disgusting party.

    I wish I could find out what this parent was thinking - how could you think that anything about this setup seemed the least bit appropriate for age 16 and younger children? Idiotic. If my kid(s) had been exposed to this I would already be on the phone to my lawyer.

    Remember - just because you can have children does not always mean you should have children.
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    GOODGODWWJD - November 15, 2012 5:00 pm
    Hmmmmm. Not sure about this one.... disturbing...YES.! But just wait until you find out who the family is.....Surprise!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  28. local433girl
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    local433girl - November 15, 2012 4:01 pm
    So many elements of this are disturbing. That a 16 year old would have a paid "girlie" -- stripper or bikini girl -- doing a lap dance at his party is bad enough. But the immedite assertions by the mother that it didn't happen and was a vendetta by another is even worse, in my opinion, especially in light of the apparently ample photographic evidence of a lap dance. So, the child either lies to his mother, or the mother is lying to the rest of us. It will be hard for her to give up her position now that she's taken it so rigidly. My own parents wouldn't have taken a position until they knew what happened. Truthfully, they'd probably have suspected me of guilt out of their respect for authority, but they would have withheld punishment and any public statement until they really knew.
  29. rdc
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    rdc - November 15, 2012 3:41 pm
    I thought it was stupid when I experienced it at a bachelor party, and I still think it's stupid. I've lived a lot - done my share of stupid things. But this is just a white-bread idea of 'being wild'. Probably really something that SHOULD be aimed at dumb, inexperienced teen agers. Get a little older and you see how dumb it is.
  30. pfenton
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    pfenton - November 15, 2012 1:26 pm
    My birthday's coming up December 23rd!
  31. yeahbud123
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    yeahbud123 - November 15, 2012 12:17 pm
    i think thats awsome, good for that 16 year old boy. some people need to learn how to live a little. yeaaaaaaah buddddddy
  32. OhReally
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    OhReally - November 15, 2012 11:56 am
    Seriously, what is wrong with people!?! Have we no limits to what is deemed age appropriate? I understand Tops and Bottoms may have had no prior knowledge the nature of this event prior to arrival, however clearly they should have had more sense than to follow through with the performance they were hired to do given the fact these attendees were clearly under age. And shame on the Spare Time for allowing such a travesty to take place. There is no way those guests were left unattended without any staff at the very least checking to see if they needed anything. It should have been shut down before it reached that level. If you are going to do it, why on earth wouldn't you just host this type of gathering at a private residence? If you're going to have poor enough judgement to expose these adolescents to sexually explicit conduct, at least have enough sense not to do it at a bowling alley. Stupid parents who let kids drink at home still probably wouldn't try taking them to a bar.
  33. cooter
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    cooter - November 15, 2012 11:53 am
    i couldn't agree w/ you more..The parents & all involved should be ashamed...
  34. rdc
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    rdc - November 15, 2012 11:26 am
    Lap dances for 16 year olds? Pretty dumb/probably illegal.
    a PARENT taking photos of the incident and posting them online?
    priceless! and even dumber

    can we get a dope-slap for all of the 'mature' parties involved? This includes viewers, parents, vendors, AND 'dancers', All deserve a slap upside the head for such idiotic behavior involving young people.
  35. dolphins17-0
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    dolphins17-0 - November 15, 2012 11:07 am
    Guys, How in the world did this go on. I can't believe one of the parents didn't stop it. As a father of a son and daughter I would have been PO'd if a parent didn't warn me about this. They put up paper on the windows of the room. And people wonder why we have so many pregnant teens. As for you guys arguing over the politics of the parent, can I interject it is doubtful, that family, is too involved in politics or the political forum. They just don't strike me as big "readers." What it strikes me as is: A mom desperate to be a BIG HIT with the kids. Listen, Be a PARENT to your child. Not a buddy. Teach them morals. I do agree that "Tops and Bottoms" should be also held accountable since they could clearly see this was an under-aged group. This is a good time to talk to your child about right and wrong. This same situation comes up with alcohol and drugs. Good luck to all the boys and girls involved and lets keep the blame in the hands of those responsible.
  36. walterp
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    walterp - November 15, 2012 7:28 am
    Scooter,wanna bet that they're liberal dems.
  37. woodsplitter
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    woodsplitter - November 15, 2012 7:25 am
    The mother staits that there were no strippers at this party,what would you call the girls doing the lap dances.The bowling alley should of known if this was legal of not,and not allowed it.the mother putting this on makes me wonder on her mental state.
  38. Key
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    Key - November 15, 2012 3:16 am
    The whole idea of having this type of party for young people is sick; teaching that women should be disrespected and treated like property. I am appalled that the bowling alley would allow this kind of activity to take place on their premises.
  39. Key
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    Key - November 15, 2012 3:11 am
    I doubt your contention very much. That is a cheap shot at republicans. Their political affiliation is totally irrelevent to the subject matter. Mean spirited attack.
  40. DWC121
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    DWC121 - November 14, 2012 11:54 pm
    Hey Mom! If this is all true, it is absolutely disgusting no matter what you say!

    And why didn't the strippers refuse to do the gig once they saw the party was for teenagers? Or did the strippers ask the KIDS for proof of age only to be shown fake ID's saying they (the kids) were adults? And don't tell me the strippers HAVE to do the gig because their boss told them to.

    What's worse, the teenagers probably think this is no big deal. It WILL come back to haunt them later in life.
  41. Sceptical Mass
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    Sceptical Mass - November 14, 2012 9:56 pm
    I'm CERTAIN the police officers doing the investigation have repeatedly studied the pictures with great interest with the idea of ensuring law and order in the area, and nothing else, but I'm not certain what is more provocative, the idea that parents would condone something so utterly stupid, or that a business would allow something illegal and so utterly without any semblance of good taste on their property, or the publishing of such an unnecessarily misleading and tawdry headline.

  42. newshound
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    newshound - November 14, 2012 8:22 pm
    OF COURSE this is wrong and a lot of folks including the mother should be charged.

    lets just imagine she had hired and adult male to put his crotch in a 16 year old girls face.....and more... folks would be in an uproar...

    i think this entire family needs some counseling..for her to think this is a good idea really scares me.
  43. gogetem
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    gogetem - November 14, 2012 8:09 pm
    News Channel 13 has it all! That was no birthday-gram! Totally disgusting.
  44. dot2dot
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    dot2dot - November 14, 2012 6:57 pm
    The police decided no charges were necessary without ever seeing available photos? Now they want to look into the matter because of articles in the Post Star. Both actions show poor police work to me. Aren't small towns fun...
  45. scooter
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    scooter - November 14, 2012 6:44 pm
    How much ya wanna bet that the parents are "family values" Republicans?


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